The thoughts, prayers, and rituals are not for me. I know I promised to make this blog more about me and my journey of discovering who I am, but I have to break this promise. The thoughts, prayers, and rituals are for my boyfriend and his dad.
Yesterday evening, my boyfriend and I found out that his dad was diagnosed with cancer. The doctors found a growth in his shoulder that ended up being malignant. From what we heard yesterday, he is now in the ICU with pneumonia in both lungs and the cancer already spreading. My boyfriend’s uncle said it’s looking bad and while my boyfriend and his brother are taking the wait and see approach, his aunt told him they were making a mistake not flying down to see their dad.
The way people are talking, there may not be much time left. What also worries me is that my boyfriend’s birthday is later this week. If this may be goodbye for his dad, I want his dad to wait to take his last breath until after my boyfriend’s birthday. My cousin lost his favorite grandmother on his birthday years ago and I saw the mental health effects that resulted from what would be considered the worst birthday gift ever. I don’t want history to repeat itself.
I have this tagged and categorized as mental health because I’m worried about my boyfriend’s mental health if his dad suddenly takes a turn for the worse. Men are less likely to seek mental health help, especially if they’re in the military. However, there are grief support groups around the county and free counseling services through the military. I know he’s trying to keep it together, but if and when the dam breaks, there will be a flood.
Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma is seen as one of the better cancers to have, but hearing the big c-word is still scary. If you believe in a religious power, please pray for my boyfriend’s father to keep his fighting spirit as he goes through cancer. Please pray for my boyfriend’s mental health and guide him to the best decision of when to see his dad (if things go well, then he will visit his dad over the summer. If things get worse, he’s spending his birthday with his dad). Please pray for the family to be prepared for the worse and to keep a realistic outlook. If you don’t believe in a religious power, keep the family in your thoughts.
Update: My boyfriend’s dad is in hospice now. We’re going to fly down to see his dad.